About
Lydia
From the Netherlands to Nairobi
Chasing my dreams, following my heart, and overcoming fears
Who am I?
Let me tell you something about myself. Originally I am from The Netherlands, born and raised in a small fisher village. I grew up with my parents, my sister, and a few four-legged friends.
When I was 18, I moved to the ‘bigger’ city to study Psychology. I have always been interested in human behaviour, how the mind works, and how we can influence these.
After my studies, I travelled through Africa, after which I landed in Nairobi. Here, I have taken the NLP Practitioner and Master course to further enhance my practical coaching skills.
And… what else? I love dancing (obvs), creating, my friends, being in nature, exploring new hobbies and cultures, and last but not least, Tuur (my parents’ dog).
I choose myself, you too?
Woman to woman
Too often, women lose themselves in unhealthy relationships. They bend. They shrink. They sacrifice, just to keep something alive that’s actually draining them.
I know how heavy that is.
The silence. The self-doubt. The questions that haunt you:
“Do I deserve better?”
“Why do I keep ending up here?”
“Is this love… or just survival?”
You don’t have to carry this alone anymore.
My mission is to hold space for women ready to break free from the patterns, the pain, and the pressure to be anything other than who they truly are.
This is your space to come home to yourself.
What do you want—not just in a relationship, but in life?
Together, we’ll rebuild the foundation of your self-worth. We’ll untangle the old stories and reconnect you with your voice, your boundaries, your desires.
This is the journey back to you. To the love, confidence, and life you deserve.
Are you ready to choose yourself?
After living in Africa for about a year, I found myself back at the airport in Brussels with all my belongings. It was time for me to start my master’s in sociology at the university in Rotterdam.
I was sure that this was the right choice for my career. I would return to Africa after my master’s to find a job there. However, finding a job in Africa is not easy, but I would work my way up and push my boundaries to achieve what I wanted: I would return to Africa no matter what. After all, I had lost my heart to this continent.
Everything was arranged: I had found a room in Rotterdam, and the preparations for my studies were made. Even before my studies began, I noticed something was wrong. I was extremely stressed, and my homesickness for Africa only got worse. I also couldn’t find my place in the Netherlands and noticed that I didn’t feel like doing anything, meeting new people, or even leaving the house. What was happening, and why did I suddenly feel so terribly unhappy?
I had known it for a while, but really listening to myself and my feelings is often harder than I’d think. I realized two things: I am unhappy in the Netherlands, and I no longer want to study. Admitting these two things was difficult because it meant that I would have to turn everything upside down again, leading to a lot of uncertainty. What on earth am I going to do with my life then?
In short, I discovered that doing a master’s was more of an expectation I had of myself due to societal pressure. After your bachelor’s, you do a master’s, and then you find a job where you spend your days from 9 to 5 for the rest of your life. However, this has never worked for me. I love freedom, setting my own rules, doing something I enjoy, and having the space to take time for myself. For this reason, I took on the challenge of starting my own marketing business. A bold choice, but if I let fear guide me, I’ll never move forward.
I chose myself, and I am incredibly happy and proud of myself for doing this,